Love Energy: it's not about Possession

When we are in love, the world seems brighter and shinier. The colours seem more vivid, there is a feeling of excitement about everything. But what happens when you find out that this person who you loved so much has cheated on you? Or even worse - your partner cheats on you with someone else? It's not just an emotional rollercoaster anymore. You need to be aware that the energy exchange in relationships can go wrong and affect every aspect of your life, from mental health to finances!

In the previous article, we discussed love energy, its sources and the importance of a healthy exchange. Relationships are unique, but it's always necessary to be aware that love is not enough - there should also be trust, respect and commitment. And not all the energy you give and receive in relations is love energy.

In the next articles, we'll explore the possibilities of other kinds of energy that may be present in relationships. Let's get started today with one particular kind:

The desire for possession and control is driven by a different kind of energy which also drives greed, manipulation and humiliation. In its early stages, it may look harmless and very much like love - but it is not. There is a difference between 'I like you, I want you, I need you' and the true generous love feeling.

Such a need for control is often driven by deep insecurity or fear that causes people to want what they feel others could take away from them - status, power, attention and respect. These are usually signs of low self-esteem but when it comes to relationships. And the energy of fear is not what love energy is.

However, sometimes 'I want you' may convert into true 'I love you’, the nurturing and nourishing kind. It is the energy of intelligence, wisdom and patience - not an insatiable need to control but trust in someone else's ability to take care of themselves and experience life as they want it without being there all the time on standby. This happens when a loving partner stimulates all the good sides of a beloved one who starts with only wanting to receive, but not really giving back. This provides them with an opportunity to grow and change, eventually switching over to another type of energy exchange where both give and take are healthy for them.

How do you distinguish between the energy of love and the desire to possess? Not so hard - the key is the willingness to give and not ask for anything in return at first. If you want to know what love is, take the time to examine your own and your partner's actions in order to figure out the answer.

I am always ready to give what I can and receive without demanding anything in return - that's how true love operates. From such a state people grow as individuals when they learn about themselves from another person with different qualities.

In a relationship, if you are constantly giving but not getting anything back - that is the energy of possession and control. It might be because both partners have different needs in this arrangement (one wants to give while the other only wants to take) or one partner has all their eggs in one basket (dependant and in fear of changes). Such relations could be draining for both parties and bad luck follows.